Who Do You Hate?

Is there a person in your life that you absolutely hate? Did that person’s face just pop into your mind? If it did, then you might not be feeling so great right now. But wait – let’s make that better – right now. Hell, let’s just fix it for good. Right now. Yep, I’m serious.

First, let’s get something straight: hating another person in your life does nothing but hurt you. If you think that you are punishing a bad guy by just disliking him or her, then you’ve got it all wrong, and the person you really dislike is you. Hanging on to anger is something you do TO yourself. You certainly aren’t doing it FOR yourself and it sure is hell doesn’t help anyone else.

Let’s assume that this hate you feel is from some “unforgiveable” act this person has committed against you. Shame on them for hurting you. Right?  You may think that if you forgave that person you might be actually condoning whatever bad thing they did. Nothing could be further from the truth, my friend.  Forgiving a person just releases you from the continual hurt that you are subjecting yourself to right now.

Your continual hurt means nothing to the bad guy. Nothing. Nada. Zip.

Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and waiting for the other guy to die. Well, today is the day you free yourself! And here’s how:

We are going to do a meditation – yes – meditation. Even if you have never tried to meditate before, you can do this one and I’ll talk you through it.  This meditation opens up the door to the future and clears out all the junk that's holding you back.  It’s called Ho’oponopono.

This is an ancient Hawaiian practice of forgiveness meditation that helps to heal anger and guilt between people. With Ho'oponopono practice, you agree that your present reality is all your own doing. Yes, wherever you are, you are the one who drove you there. 

The great thing about trying this meditation is that the letting go of anger and blame happens very quickly. Almost instantly, really. But that doesn't mean it's easy.

The first time I tried it, I stopped in the middle. I actually said "NO!" and refused to continue. But after a few minutes I went back, tried again, and my life has never been the same.

Here is a Ho’opnonpono meditation I have made for you. And it only takes 6:37 to fix that little problem of hating someone.

Danan Whiddon is a Nashville based teacher, writer, herbalist, radio host, and Reiki Master.